The Humanist Life Coach's Purpose (L'Raison D'Etre)
Humanist Life Coach's whole societal purpose, their role, their reason for being part of the social fabric, is to help others find their path THROUGH direct interconnection with their lives.
Humanist Life Coaches become their client's best friends. period.
That is why Humanist Life Coaches can be trusted.
You trust who they are, directly reflected in what they have chosen to be : A Humanist Life Coach.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Friday, November 18, 2011
The Humanist Life Coach Degree
Course : Group Problem Solving
Format
Personal problems and scenarios are brought to the class and solutions are proposed and discussed.
The problems and scenarios don't have to be the student's problems, or even real.
Any example of human difficulties will do.
What Makes The Class Unique?
Throughout human history, and still in our current society, people have had to solve their problems on their own, or with the input of family, a few friends, never really benefiting from the combined vision and perspective of a large group.
This class answers the question of : what if a large group of people focused on someone's problems, discussed them, understood them, felt them and figured out solutions.
Discussion Format
Simple group discussion etiquette.
Smaller Groups
The class can be broken into smaller groups for more intimate discussion,
and then solutions can be brought to the attention of the entire class.
Solutions Are Essential, But Only Half The Picture
The class puts emphasis on solutions AND emotions.
Personal problems require executable solutions, but the human component , a person's feelings, must be nurtured.
The teacher will ask students to also :
"The Whole Is Greater Than The Sum Of Its Parts."
This class aims to show students that the way people have approached solving personal problems in the past (stoically, alone, getting help from only a small group of people) does not tap into the potential of the broader human ability to collaborate and support each other.
A complex structure is comprised of many supporting parts.
Humans are complex structures. Human require many supporting people in their lives.
The Student Experience
This is a completely unique class.
It is a class, aimed towards a degree, there is purpose to it; yet, it's topic is something so personal to everyone, so essential to the human condition, perhaps it transcends what can traditionally be called a "class".
Students go to class knowing they are going to put their heads and their hearts to work, exercising both muscles with the noble goal of finding solutions and compassion for their fellow human beings.
In The Real World...
When Life Coaches are engaged as professionals, they will have benefited from having trained their minds and feelings in human problem solving.
They will know the value of having the input of others, and know to seek other people's advice and perspective on problems.
Perhaps, enterprising Life Coaches can form Local Groups of fellow Coaches to discuss problems with and crowd-source solutions.
Format
Personal problems and scenarios are brought to the class and solutions are proposed and discussed.
The problems and scenarios don't have to be the student's problems, or even real.
Any example of human difficulties will do.
What Makes The Class Unique?
Throughout human history, and still in our current society, people have had to solve their problems on their own, or with the input of family, a few friends, never really benefiting from the combined vision and perspective of a large group.
This class answers the question of : what if a large group of people focused on someone's problems, discussed them, understood them, felt them and figured out solutions.
Discussion Format
Simple group discussion etiquette.
Smaller Groups
The class can be broken into smaller groups for more intimate discussion,
and then solutions can be brought to the attention of the entire class.
Solutions Are Essential, But Only Half The Picture
The class puts emphasis on solutions AND emotions.
Personal problems require executable solutions, but the human component , a person's feelings, must be nurtured.
The teacher will ask students to also :
- talk about how they feel about the problem
- is the problem like one they have faced before
- how did they solve the problem
"The Whole Is Greater Than The Sum Of Its Parts."
This class aims to show students that the way people have approached solving personal problems in the past (stoically, alone, getting help from only a small group of people) does not tap into the potential of the broader human ability to collaborate and support each other.
A complex structure is comprised of many supporting parts.
Humans are complex structures. Human require many supporting people in their lives.
The Student Experience
This is a completely unique class.
It is a class, aimed towards a degree, there is purpose to it; yet, it's topic is something so personal to everyone, so essential to the human condition, perhaps it transcends what can traditionally be called a "class".
Students go to class knowing they are going to put their heads and their hearts to work, exercising both muscles with the noble goal of finding solutions and compassion for their fellow human beings.
In The Real World...
When Life Coaches are engaged as professionals, they will have benefited from having trained their minds and feelings in human problem solving.
They will know the value of having the input of others, and know to seek other people's advice and perspective on problems.
Perhaps, enterprising Life Coaches can form Local Groups of fellow Coaches to discuss problems with and crowd-source solutions.
Tuesday, November 15, 2011
The Humanist Life Coach's Model Poem : Elegy Written In A Country Churchyard by Sir Thomas Gray
I have truncated some stanzas from the poem which I think particularly resonant with the Life Coaching philosophy.
Perhaps in this neglected spot is laid
Some heart once pregnant with celestial fire;
Hands, that the rod of empire might have sway'd,
Or waked to ecstasy the living lyre:
But Knowledge to their eyes her ample page,
Rich with the spoils of time, did ne'er unroll;
Chill Penury repress'd their noble rage,
And froze the genial current of the soul.
Full many a gem of purest ray serene
The dark unfathom'd caves of ocean bear:
Full many a flower is born to blush unseen,
And waste its sweetness on the desert air.
Some village-Hampden, that with dauntless breast
The little tyrant of his fields withstood,
Some mute inglorious Milton here may rest,
Some Cromwell, guiltless of his country's blood.
The Life Coaches' Role
Life Coaches are dedicated to insuring that their Clients do not become mute inglorious Miltons.
They are dedicated to making sure that every person they Coach is ready to walk down their life's path with bravery and confidence.
That is the noble role of the Life Coach in society.
Perhaps in this neglected spot is laid
Some heart once pregnant with celestial fire;
Hands, that the rod of empire might have sway'd,
Or waked to ecstasy the living lyre:
But Knowledge to their eyes her ample page,
Rich with the spoils of time, did ne'er unroll;
Chill Penury repress'd their noble rage,
And froze the genial current of the soul.
Full many a gem of purest ray serene
The dark unfathom'd caves of ocean bear:
Full many a flower is born to blush unseen,
And waste its sweetness on the desert air.
Some village-Hampden, that with dauntless breast
The little tyrant of his fields withstood,
Some mute inglorious Milton here may rest,
Some Cromwell, guiltless of his country's blood.
The Life Coaches' Role
Life Coaches are dedicated to insuring that their Clients do not become mute inglorious Miltons.
They are dedicated to making sure that every person they Coach is ready to walk down their life's path with bravery and confidence.
That is the noble role of the Life Coach in society.
Sunday, November 13, 2011
Life Coach : Training Journeys
The Life Coaching Role
Life Coaches have a special responsibility.
They are another human beings temporary guide in life, their mentor, their friend.
To be able to accomplish this role, a Life Coach must have their core skills, and they must also have life experience.
Getting Life Experience
Life Coaches are heavily encouraged...in fact, simply stated must have a broad range of life experiences.
Certainly younger Coaches have fewer experiences, but they have the core skills, and youthful vigour.
Younger Coaches create a different relationship with clients than older ones.
All Life Coaches should :
Life Coaches have a special responsibility.
They are the energy, the love of life, when their clients have none.
That is why a Life Coach must have a great wellspring of life love to draw from and shower their clients with.
The Life Coach Lever
Life Coaches can change the world for the infinitely better.
That is why Life Coaches must give themselves a great life, full of rich experiences.
Life Coaches have a special responsibility.
They are another human beings temporary guide in life, their mentor, their friend.
To be able to accomplish this role, a Life Coach must have their core skills, and they must also have life experience.
Getting Life Experience
Life Coaches are heavily encouraged...in fact, simply stated must have a broad range of life experiences.
Certainly younger Coaches have fewer experiences, but they have the core skills, and youthful vigour.
Younger Coaches create a different relationship with clients than older ones.
All Life Coaches should :
- Travel (by far the most important life experience)
- Try Different Jobs
- Take Chances (skydiving, asking a hotter person than you on a date, lion taming...just kidding...maybe)
- Do Different Sports
- Try Different Hobbies
- simply stated : Live Life To The Fullest
Life Coaches have a special responsibility.
They are the energy, the love of life, when their clients have none.
That is why a Life Coach must have a great wellspring of life love to draw from and shower their clients with.
The Life Coach Lever
Life Coaches can change the world for the infinitely better.
That is why Life Coaches must give themselves a great life, full of rich experiences.
My Motivation - For Creating This Model Of The Life Coaching Concept
"I Have Lived An Empty And Fairly Meaningless Life, Wasting Away Immersed In Fantasies Derived From TV, Video Games, or Books, Always Escaping A World I Did Not Feel Welcomed Into, Never Able To Bring My Own Life Into Focus."
"I Am A Mass Of Regrets, Self-Pity And Self-Loathing."
"I Desperately Needed A Wise Mentor, A True Friend, To Have Helped Me Get Unstuck And Gotten My Life Going."
"Our Society Is One Dedicated To Competition, To One-Upmanship. Such A Society Only Gives Half-Hearted Support To Lost Souls."
"When I Become A Humanist Life Coach, I Will Do Everything In My Power To Make Sure That Nobody Else Lives A Life Of Quiet Desperation."
"I Owe It To The Boy And Young Man I Once Was, Who Wasted His Best Years Lost In Sadness, Misery And Confusion."
"I Am A Mass Of Regrets, Self-Pity And Self-Loathing."
"I Desperately Needed A Wise Mentor, A True Friend, To Have Helped Me Get Unstuck And Gotten My Life Going."
"Our Society Is One Dedicated To Competition, To One-Upmanship. Such A Society Only Gives Half-Hearted Support To Lost Souls."
"When I Become A Humanist Life Coach, I Will Do Everything In My Power To Make Sure That Nobody Else Lives A Life Of Quiet Desperation."
"I Owe It To The Boy And Young Man I Once Was, Who Wasted His Best Years Lost In Sadness, Misery And Confusion."
Sunday, October 30, 2011
Life Coach Slogans : Phrases Which Describe The Humanist Life Coach Philosophy
"I Will Not Allow Someone's Life To Pass Them By."
"I Believe In You, Even If You Don't Believe In Yourself."
"Giving Advice To Someone Is Great, But Actually Showing Someone How To Use Advice Is Even Better."
"People Can Do A Lot On Their Own, Sometimes They Just Need Help Getting Started."
"It Is Perfectly Possible For A Person To Let Their Whole Life Pass By Without Having Felt They Accomplished Anything Or Amounted To Much. Humanist Life Coaches Dedicate Themselves To Making Sure That Doesn't Happen."
"A Rich Life Is A Life Full Of Surprises. Surprise Often Involves Risk. Risk Is Frightening. Many People Don't Take Risks Because They Are Paralyzed With Fear. Humanist Life Coaches Teach Their Clients Courage, So They Are Ready To Take Their Own Risks."
"I Believe In You, Even If You Don't Believe In Yourself."
"Giving Advice To Someone Is Great, But Actually Showing Someone How To Use Advice Is Even Better."
"People Can Do A Lot On Their Own, Sometimes They Just Need Help Getting Started."
"It Is Perfectly Possible For A Person To Let Their Whole Life Pass By Without Having Felt They Accomplished Anything Or Amounted To Much. Humanist Life Coaches Dedicate Themselves To Making Sure That Doesn't Happen."
"A Rich Life Is A Life Full Of Surprises. Surprise Often Involves Risk. Risk Is Frightening. Many People Don't Take Risks Because They Are Paralyzed With Fear. Humanist Life Coaches Teach Their Clients Courage, So They Are Ready To Take Their Own Risks."
Examples Of The Life Coaching Philosophy From : Movie, TV, Anime
Hitch (Will Smith)
Required watching for all Life Coaches. : )
A person who watches this movie can't help but think,
"I wish I had a person like Alex Hitchens in my life."
With Life Coaches becoming part of the mainstream of Health Care, everyone will.
Naruto Shippuden : Granny Chiyo and Sakura Release Naruto From A Genjutsu
Sometimes, when a person is caught up in illusions, in their own head, they need another, maybe several other people, to insert their perspective, their energy into the trapped person, to release them from an inner world of confusion they can't escape on their own.
Back To The Future
Marty McFly and his Dad George McFly.
It seems strange that a son would become his own Father's mentor, but courage really took root in Marty and thanks to the invention of the Flux Capacitor, it became possible for Marty to become the best friend and mentor for his Dad and change both of their futures for the better.
Crazy, Stupid Love
Even though Jacob Palmer (Ryan Gosling) is much younger than Cal Weaver (Steve Carrel) when it comes to dressing well and projecting confidence, Jacob has a lot to teach Cal.
The sequence where Jacob takes Cal shopping is straight out of the Humanist Life Coach playbook.
What can be said?
When a person looks good, their confidence is naturally raised significantly.
The most unique insight I can offer on the movie is this :
at one point in the movie, following Cal having had success with multiple women yet still feeling torn that he has not reconciled with his wife, Cal finds himself at the bar trying to find Jacob.
Cal notices another 40 something "uncool" fellow at the bar and likely thinks to himself, "man...and there sit I...before Jacob."
My insight is : wouldn't it be nice if Cal had turned around and tried to make this poor fellow's life better.
Wouldn't it be nice if there were a whole group of people dedicated to taking the "uncool" and "unpopular" and "unhappy" and turning their lives around?
Enter : Humanist Life Coaching
Soul Of Iron (Fairy Tail)
Makarov believes in Gajeel.
He won't let a young man fall into darkness.
Great Teacher Onizuka
Is the racy story of Onizuka, a former motorcycle gang member who becomes a teacher at a privately-operated school whose students have driven one teacher to a mysterious death, one to nervous breakdown, and one to joining a cult. Using his street smarts to deal with colleagues, students and troublemakers, Onizuka sets out to become the greatest teacher ever, using his own brand of philosophy and the ability to do nearly anything when under enough pressure. Onizukea always believes in his students, no matter how troublesome they might be.
Chocolat
Narrator : [Vianne felt the North Wind once more.] It spoke of towns yet to be visited. Friends in need. Battles yet to be fought. By someone else, next time. And so it was that the North Wind grew weary, and went on its way.
Vianne Rocher acts as a Life Coach for the entire sleepy town she comes to call home.
In particular, the downtrodden Josephine Muscat emerges like a flower released from the sticky tar of a swamp, thanks to Vianne showing her how much she was capable of doing, how worthwhile she really was and how strong she really was.
The essence of what a Life Coach does.
Ah! My Goddess! Ah! What Are Talent And Hard Work!
Season 1 Episode 17
Note : Meatball I and IV are about mentors involving themselves in the life of underdogs. The other two Meatball movies are just silly.
The main plot involves Rudy Gerner a lonely kid who is sent to summer camp by his father. Noticing Rudy is unable to fit in, Tripper takes him under his wing and each morning they go jogging and bond as friends. Tripper helps Rudy gain confidence while Rudy encourages Tripper to start a romance with Roxanne, the female head counsellor.
North Star now trails by only 10 points with one event left, a 4-mile run cross country run for 20 points. Tripper steps forward and elects a surprised Rudy to compete against Horse, Mohawk's star runner. The many mornings Rudy spent jogging and training with Tripper pay off as he wins the race, giving North Star its first Olympiad victory.
Meatball IV
Ricky Wade is a reluctant hot-shot, water-skiing instructor-protagonist, but once he realizes that the "losers" in his care really can benefit from his mentorship; he embraces his role and inspires his campers with new confidence and a bunch of fun memories to treasure.
Fairy Godmother
Cinderella wouldn't have gotten anywhere without her.
Vic Fontaine : Deep Space Nine
Odo and the rest of the Ops crew are introduced to holographic Lounge Singer Vic Fontaine by Dr. Bashir.
Vic has been programmed to be a savvy, wise cracking, charismatic, and good natured working gentleman of the 60's.
Upon introduction he makes keen observations about all of the Ops crew members, but hesitates on making a comment about Odo and Major Kira.
Vic can see plain as day that Odo is crazy about Kira and she, unfortunately, just thinks of Odo as a friend.
Odo notices that Vic is a very aware individual and smart and talented and Odo seeks Vic's help, and Vic proceeds to change Odo's life for the better, by showing Odo all the potential to fun and loving that lies not too deeply buried inside.
Note : Vic doesn't sit Odo on a couch and psychoanalyze him. Vic doesn't propose making up a daily schedule and sticking to it with the hope that routine will bring peace to his life.
No.
Vic sees that Odo needs Kira to be happy, and Vic helps Odo get her.
That's what a "true friend" does.
Legend of Tarzan : Tarzan and the Protegee
The nephew of a Professor friend of Jane's father Archimedes comes to the jungle and meets Tarzan.
The boy is a shy, awkward boy who has been incessantly fussed over by his over protective Aunt and family his whole life, thus resulting in him being fearful, clumsy, and weak.
Naturally, Tarzan fixes that.
Tarzan shows the boy how unlimited his potential truly is.
The boy finds himself climbing trees, moss surfing, swinging from vines, diving off of water falls, and playing games with powerful wild animals,
all because he is believed in by Tarzan.
In fact, for Tarzan, there is never any doubt in his mind that the young boy has unlimited potential,
that he can easily keep up with Tarzan,
that Tarzan will enjoy his company with no sacrificing of his own personal fun
(sure, the boy might be awkward at first, but Tarzan knows that he will catch on).
When the boy leaves, he is a new person, confident and skilled, all because Tarzan opened a door to potential he probably would have never known he had.
Note : Tarzan didn't just counsel the boy. He didn't prescribe him mood altering drugs. He didn't put him in "special classes", Tarzan made friends and shared his personal sense of wonder, thus making the boy truly exceptional in the process.
Brawl In The Family (Simpsons)
Gabriel (a Social Worker) lives with The Simpsons family to find out how he can help them be functional.
The episode does not give sufficient time to the development of how much a Social Worker could benefit The Simpsons family, but Gabriel's intriguing idea about rescuing a Picnic Basket from a tree as a family exercise, shows a great deal of potential in how much benefit a family can derive from a "Proactive" approach to helping people.
Required watching for all Life Coaches. : )
A person who watches this movie can't help but think,
"I wish I had a person like Alex Hitchens in my life."
With Life Coaches becoming part of the mainstream of Health Care, everyone will.
Naruto Shippuden : Granny Chiyo and Sakura Release Naruto From A Genjutsu
Sometimes, when a person is caught up in illusions, in their own head, they need another, maybe several other people, to insert their perspective, their energy into the trapped person, to release them from an inner world of confusion they can't escape on their own.
Back To The Future
Marty McFly and his Dad George McFly.
It seems strange that a son would become his own Father's mentor, but courage really took root in Marty and thanks to the invention of the Flux Capacitor, it became possible for Marty to become the best friend and mentor for his Dad and change both of their futures for the better.
Crazy, Stupid Love
Even though Jacob Palmer (Ryan Gosling) is much younger than Cal Weaver (Steve Carrel) when it comes to dressing well and projecting confidence, Jacob has a lot to teach Cal.
The sequence where Jacob takes Cal shopping is straight out of the Humanist Life Coach playbook.
What can be said?
When a person looks good, their confidence is naturally raised significantly.
The most unique insight I can offer on the movie is this :
at one point in the movie, following Cal having had success with multiple women yet still feeling torn that he has not reconciled with his wife, Cal finds himself at the bar trying to find Jacob.
Cal notices another 40 something "uncool" fellow at the bar and likely thinks to himself, "man...and there sit I...before Jacob."
My insight is : wouldn't it be nice if Cal had turned around and tried to make this poor fellow's life better.
Wouldn't it be nice if there were a whole group of people dedicated to taking the "uncool" and "unpopular" and "unhappy" and turning their lives around?
Enter : Humanist Life Coaching
Soul Of Iron (Fairy Tail)
Makarov believes in Gajeel.
He won't let a young man fall into darkness.
Great Teacher Onizuka
Is the racy story of Onizuka, a former motorcycle gang member who becomes a teacher at a privately-operated school whose students have driven one teacher to a mysterious death, one to nervous breakdown, and one to joining a cult. Using his street smarts to deal with colleagues, students and troublemakers, Onizuka sets out to become the greatest teacher ever, using his own brand of philosophy and the ability to do nearly anything when under enough pressure. Onizukea always believes in his students, no matter how troublesome they might be.
Chocolat
Narrator : [Vianne felt the North Wind once more.] It spoke of towns yet to be visited. Friends in need. Battles yet to be fought. By someone else, next time. And so it was that the North Wind grew weary, and went on its way.
Vianne Rocher acts as a Life Coach for the entire sleepy town she comes to call home.
In particular, the downtrodden Josephine Muscat emerges like a flower released from the sticky tar of a swamp, thanks to Vianne showing her how much she was capable of doing, how worthwhile she really was and how strong she really was.
The essence of what a Life Coach does.
Ah! My Goddess! Ah! What Are Talent And Hard Work!
Season 1 Episode 17
- Someone else's unshakeable faith in you, can become your strength, until you prove your own worth to yourself.
- Beldandy just kept believing in Sora, kept on training with Sora, until Sora had the strength to believe in herself.
- No, "Life's tough." or "If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen." Beldandy believes in Sora unconditionally.
- And...Beldandy shows Sora, over and over, there is nothing she cannot do.
- Beldandy is a true life coach.
- The scene where Remy compels Linguini ,with his body controlling hair pulling, to kiss Colette.
- Linguini , otherwise , would likely not have done it because the poor guy lacks confidence in himself.
- Remy's act, that of a friend who understands a friend's need, is exactly what Life Coaches do.
- Life Coaches empower their clients.
- Life Coaches don't do things for their clients so much as they help their clients tap into the potential they didn't know they had so they are empowered to do for themselves.
Note : Meatball I and IV are about mentors involving themselves in the life of underdogs. The other two Meatball movies are just silly.
The main plot involves Rudy Gerner a lonely kid who is sent to summer camp by his father. Noticing Rudy is unable to fit in, Tripper takes him under his wing and each morning they go jogging and bond as friends. Tripper helps Rudy gain confidence while Rudy encourages Tripper to start a romance with Roxanne, the female head counsellor.
North Star now trails by only 10 points with one event left, a 4-mile run cross country run for 20 points. Tripper steps forward and elects a surprised Rudy to compete against Horse, Mohawk's star runner. The many mornings Rudy spent jogging and training with Tripper pay off as he wins the race, giving North Star its first Olympiad victory.
Meatball IV
Ricky Wade is a reluctant hot-shot, water-skiing instructor-protagonist, but once he realizes that the "losers" in his care really can benefit from his mentorship; he embraces his role and inspires his campers with new confidence and a bunch of fun memories to treasure.
Fairy Godmother
Cinderella wouldn't have gotten anywhere without her.
Vic Fontaine : Deep Space Nine
Odo and the rest of the Ops crew are introduced to holographic Lounge Singer Vic Fontaine by Dr. Bashir.
Vic has been programmed to be a savvy, wise cracking, charismatic, and good natured working gentleman of the 60's.
Upon introduction he makes keen observations about all of the Ops crew members, but hesitates on making a comment about Odo and Major Kira.
Vic can see plain as day that Odo is crazy about Kira and she, unfortunately, just thinks of Odo as a friend.
Odo notices that Vic is a very aware individual and smart and talented and Odo seeks Vic's help, and Vic proceeds to change Odo's life for the better, by showing Odo all the potential to fun and loving that lies not too deeply buried inside.
Note : Vic doesn't sit Odo on a couch and psychoanalyze him. Vic doesn't propose making up a daily schedule and sticking to it with the hope that routine will bring peace to his life.
No.
Vic sees that Odo needs Kira to be happy, and Vic helps Odo get her.
That's what a "true friend" does.
Legend of Tarzan : Tarzan and the Protegee
The nephew of a Professor friend of Jane's father Archimedes comes to the jungle and meets Tarzan.
The boy is a shy, awkward boy who has been incessantly fussed over by his over protective Aunt and family his whole life, thus resulting in him being fearful, clumsy, and weak.
Naturally, Tarzan fixes that.
Tarzan shows the boy how unlimited his potential truly is.
The boy finds himself climbing trees, moss surfing, swinging from vines, diving off of water falls, and playing games with powerful wild animals,
all because he is believed in by Tarzan.
In fact, for Tarzan, there is never any doubt in his mind that the young boy has unlimited potential,
that he can easily keep up with Tarzan,
that Tarzan will enjoy his company with no sacrificing of his own personal fun
(sure, the boy might be awkward at first, but Tarzan knows that he will catch on).
When the boy leaves, he is a new person, confident and skilled, all because Tarzan opened a door to potential he probably would have never known he had.
Note : Tarzan didn't just counsel the boy. He didn't prescribe him mood altering drugs. He didn't put him in "special classes", Tarzan made friends and shared his personal sense of wonder, thus making the boy truly exceptional in the process.
Brawl In The Family (Simpsons)
Gabriel (a Social Worker) lives with The Simpsons family to find out how he can help them be functional.
The episode does not give sufficient time to the development of how much a Social Worker could benefit The Simpsons family, but Gabriel's intriguing idea about rescuing a Picnic Basket from a tree as a family exercise, shows a great deal of potential in how much benefit a family can derive from a "Proactive" approach to helping people.
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
The Parent Who Empowered, The Friend Who Found Ways To Better You
The Empowering Parent
- Fortune flies everywhere.
- Some people in life are fortunate enough to have parents who have skills to pass onto their children.
- The parents themselves are people who have developed real, solid concrete abilities during their life and teach those abilities to their children inspiring in their children confidence.
- The parent who can empower their children because they themselves are empowered is a great boon to the child.
- Some people in life are fortunate enough to make friendships with people who help them do things they would otherwise not have considered doing, to help encourage and believe in them when they couldn't have done something, or believed in themselves.
- Friends who help make a person see possibilities they didn't believe in themselves.
- Life Coaches are there to help the vast quantity of people in society who were not fortunate enough to have the empowering parent or the incredible friend who opened up opportunities and possibilities.
- Just as Psychologists cater to the mental well-being of people not reached by family and friends, so to do Life Coaches address the confidence/empowerment needs of people when those needs aren't reached by family and friends.
Monday, October 17, 2011
Humanist Life Coach : FAQ
Won't Life Coaches Take Away Jobs From Careers Whose Services Are Already Covered By Services Offered By Life Coaches (e.g. Professional Organizers having their job taken away by Life Coaches doing the same thing)?
Wouldn't This Result In Clients Becoming Dependent On Artificial "Life Coaches" And Unable To Survive In "The Wild" Of Real Life With Real Parents And Real Friends?
- First, such things have always happened throughout the course of human history. Jobs and services which were once exclusive become amalgamated with other jobs and services.
- Second, in a healthy, Humanist society, people would not be concerned about losing their job and the resulting loss of life-sustaining income. People's motivations would be free to operate on a higher level, because just by the simple virtue of being a fellow human being, they were guaranteed a good standard of living.
- Specialists can choose to become Life Coaches, using their existing skills to contribute to their new role as a Life Coach.
- In other words, keep things the way they are.
- Life Coaches spend a lot of time with their clients. It's that significant amount of time spent together that makes the difference.
Wouldn't This Result In Clients Becoming Dependent On Artificial "Life Coaches" And Unable To Survive In "The Wild" Of Real Life With Real Parents And Real Friends?
- Are Psychologists, Counsellors, Social Workers, and other mental health professionals unnatural? By that logic, people should keep their problems within the family and friends, even when those areas of their life are not up to the task.
- The term "profession" for a Life Coach is used only within the framework of our stratified, assembly line, separationist world. Really, a Life Coach is a person who has the training and desire to really get people back on track in life. What they do isn't a "job", it's a calling.
- Life Coaches are just another "service" in a society which has moved past the "hunter-gatherer" stage of evolution. Past the "h-g" stage, people begin specializing in the roles which they follow in society. Life Coaches are no different. They fill in the role, DESPERATELY NEEDED, of people who really get involved in the lives of people who are struggling, and make them strong, so strong that they get back on the road of life and start running in earnest.
- Clients become empowered, not imprinted. They prove to themselves, time and time again, that someone believes in them, guides them, laughs with them, cries with them, and does with them, challenge after challenge, activity after activity, and they can do it all.
- What Clients learn from the time spent with their Life Coach is that when someone believes in them, guides them, becomes their friend, and shows them everyday that they can accomplish things, there is nothing they cannot do. Clients become empowered people who know their own worth and the timeless human truth that when human beings love and nurture each other, they tap into the infinite wellspring of potential which lies hidden inside.
- Western culture is screwed up out of its gourd. Seriously.
- In traditional cultures, children weren't just raised by the parents. The extended family helped to "raise" children. Heck. The whole tribe / village / community helped to "raise" children.
- The idea that children are raised exclusively by their parents is just a byproduct of the separatist / pioneer mentality produced by American / Anglo Saxon individualistic mentality. A product of a cold environment. A cold environment will produce cold people.
- Ultimately, all people have influence in their society. It is better for those people to have healthy influence. If that means they need further nurturing, guidance, love from their society, so be it.
- We have doctors to heal bodies. Psychologists to heal minds. Now we should have Life Coaches to heal people's self-confidence.
Thursday, October 6, 2011
Why Call Humanist Life Coaches "Professional Best Friends"?
Humanist Life Coaches Are Unique
Humanist Life Coaches become intimately involved in the life of their "clients" (really more akin to friend, but client sounds more "professional").
They are not psychologists, sitting down deconstructing the past, analyzing behavior, strategizing on ideas to address problems.
Life Coaches do some of the things social workers do, but take it to another level : past the client / worker relationship, into real friendship. Formalized, structured, strategized friendship, but friendship nonetheless.
Humanist Life Coaches are, in effect, best friends with their clients.
They go shopping together.
They go out clubbing together.
They cook together.
They eat out at restaurants together.
They play sports together.
In quite nearly every way, Client and Coach are best friends.
But not every way.
This is where the distinction of being a "professional" best friend comes into play.
When the Life Coach goes home to their own life, maybe their own family, Client and Coach are separate and distinct entities.
A Life Coach is not a beer buddy, or a poker chum.
A Life Coach is not someone to be called at 2am to talk about the latest episode of The Vampire Diaries.
A Life Coach is not someone to ask for a $20 loan.
A Life Coach is a professional best friend.
Their job is to help empower people,
help people gain confidence in themselves.
Certainly their approach is 100% hands on.
Certainly there are genuine feelings of warmth and affection between Coach and Client, which may become 2am phone call / Vampire Diary discussion friendship after the professional relationship has finished.
Until the professional relationship is over though, the Coach is there to empower the Client first, and the friendship remains in the limits of the time spent Coaching together (although, personally, I believe if Client and Coach want to have a more casual relationship, that is just fine).
The Professional Life Coach Empowers People
until they are ready to forge powerful friendships of their own.
Humanist Life Coaches become intimately involved in the life of their "clients" (really more akin to friend, but client sounds more "professional").
They are not psychologists, sitting down deconstructing the past, analyzing behavior, strategizing on ideas to address problems.
Life Coaches do some of the things social workers do, but take it to another level : past the client / worker relationship, into real friendship. Formalized, structured, strategized friendship, but friendship nonetheless.
Humanist Life Coaches are, in effect, best friends with their clients.
They go shopping together.
They go out clubbing together.
They cook together.
They eat out at restaurants together.
They play sports together.
In quite nearly every way, Client and Coach are best friends.
But not every way.
This is where the distinction of being a "professional" best friend comes into play.
When the Life Coach goes home to their own life, maybe their own family, Client and Coach are separate and distinct entities.
A Life Coach is not a beer buddy, or a poker chum.
A Life Coach is not someone to be called at 2am to talk about the latest episode of The Vampire Diaries.
A Life Coach is not someone to ask for a $20 loan.
A Life Coach is a professional best friend.
Their job is to help empower people,
help people gain confidence in themselves.
Certainly their approach is 100% hands on.
Certainly there are genuine feelings of warmth and affection between Coach and Client, which may become 2am phone call / Vampire Diary discussion friendship after the professional relationship has finished.
Until the professional relationship is over though, the Coach is there to empower the Client first, and the friendship remains in the limits of the time spent Coaching together (although, personally, I believe if Client and Coach want to have a more casual relationship, that is just fine).
The Professional Life Coach Empowers People
until they are ready to forge powerful friendships of their own.
Why Have Life Coaches?
Why Does Our Society Need Life Coaches (Professional Best Friends)?
That Special Friend : some people have one...but most people don't
Some people have all the luck.
Some people have the good fortune in life of meeting someone who is a catalyzer : a person who helps reactions happen, who helps to make things happen for other people.
People who have a special friend like that come to do things they never would have done otherwise.
The energy and enthusiasm of that special friend makes it possible for a person to realize possibilities they wouldn't have considered.
Sadly, most people do not have the benefit of having a special friend like that.
Why not change that?
Spreading The Wealth
In the past inequality was more the norm than it is today
Our society continues to improve.
Let's not stop.
Formalizing Friendship
A Life Coach is NOT a replacement for friendship.
A Life Coach is a PROFESSIONAL best friend : they empower their "client", helping them to become a confident individual.
A Life Coach is like a pair of "training wheels".
Once the client is ready to race forward on their own, the Life Coach's help is no longer needed.
Client and Coach part ways as friends who have learned from each other.
Why Have Psychologists?
If all people need is someone to talk to, why not just talk to a friend or parent?
Because :
Why have professional anything?
Because professionals can do things better.
NOT because they "are" better people, but because they have the training and are focused on enacting their role in society well.
So it is with : The Humanist Life Coach, A Professional Best Friend.
That Special Friend : some people have one...but most people don't
Some people have all the luck.
Some people have the good fortune in life of meeting someone who is a catalyzer : a person who helps reactions happen, who helps to make things happen for other people.
People who have a special friend like that come to do things they never would have done otherwise.
The energy and enthusiasm of that special friend makes it possible for a person to realize possibilities they wouldn't have considered.
Sadly, most people do not have the benefit of having a special friend like that.
Why not change that?
Spreading The Wealth
In the past inequality was more the norm than it is today
- Some people could read, most could not
- Some people had plenty of food, most did not
- Some people had clean drinking water, many did not
- Some people could vote, most could not
- and so on...
Our society continues to improve.
Let's not stop.
Formalizing Friendship
A Life Coach is NOT a replacement for friendship.
A Life Coach is a PROFESSIONAL best friend : they empower their "client", helping them to become a confident individual.
A Life Coach is like a pair of "training wheels".
Once the client is ready to race forward on their own, the Life Coach's help is no longer needed.
Client and Coach part ways as friends who have learned from each other.
Why Have Psychologists?
If all people need is someone to talk to, why not just talk to a friend or parent?
Because :
- A Psychologist is a stranger. Someone who can listen and advise without preformed ideas and opinions about a person.
- A Psychologist is trained in many different forms of analysis and ways of thinking.
- A Psychologist is a professional. A Psychologist is a careered person. They will not shun you from the group because you're not "cool". They will not threaten you with no supper if you disobey. A Psychologist is a formal, standardized, recognized, societal role, deemed to be accessible by all.
Why have professional anything?
Because professionals can do things better.
NOT because they "are" better people, but because they have the training and are focused on enacting their role in society well.
So it is with : The Humanist Life Coach, A Professional Best Friend.
Sunday, October 2, 2011
Tool : Who Am I?, The Facebook Individual's Personality and Belief System Aggregator
Besides the core focuses of Life Coaching, a Life Coach also helps a person to find their direction in life.
The first step is for someone to go through the Who Am I? Facebook test [as of October 1st, 2011, still in development in my head].
After having taken the test, the Life Coach acts as an advisor to what the test has shown.
The Role Of Experience
This is a situation where life experience is invaluable to a Life Coach.
This is the reason why Life Coaches are encouraged to seek out new experiences for themselves,
to try many new and interesting thing,
to meet many new and interesting people,
the more experiences a Life Coach has the more they have grown,
the better they can advise their mathetes [Gk. Learner,pupil] on how to direct their life.
The first step is for someone to go through the Who Am I? Facebook test [as of October 1st, 2011, still in development in my head].
After having taken the test, the Life Coach acts as an advisor to what the test has shown.
The Role Of Experience
This is a situation where life experience is invaluable to a Life Coach.
This is the reason why Life Coaches are encouraged to seek out new experiences for themselves,
to try many new and interesting thing,
to meet many new and interesting people,
the more experiences a Life Coach has the more they have grown,
the better they can advise their mathetes [Gk. Learner,pupil] on how to direct their life.
Sunday, August 28, 2011
The Core Skills Of Life Coaching
1. Domestic Duties : Organization, Interior Decorating
"When a person's home, their living space, is messy, a person's whole life feels messy."
"An organized home helps one to lead an organized life."
2. Domestic Duties : Cooking
"When a person's home, their living space, is messy, a person's whole life feels messy."
"An organized home helps one to lead an organized life."
2. Domestic Duties : Cooking
- Humanist Life Coaches teach their clients how to cook healthy meals.
- Cooking is something that Coach and Client do together, a bond as old as humanity itself.
3. Nutrition
- Humanist Life Coaches are well versed in Nutrition.
- Naturally this is beneficial for their clients.
- Humanist Life Coaches know how to take care of skin, hair, and teeth.
- Life Coaches are familiar with the best brands of beauty care products.
- Life Coaches know how to dress well.
- Life Coaches go out with their clients clothes shopping.
- Life Coaches are workout buddies for their clients, providing encouragement and advice.
- Life Coaches are wingmen/wingwomen for their clients , along with being social skills experts.
- When it comes to Social Skills, there are only 2 requirements :
- Be Yourself
- Be Confident In Yourself
- Life Coaching gives clients the tools to have confidence in themselves, and the back up and encouragement to be themselves.
- Otherwise known as : The Psychology of Knowing Yourself
- A Life Coaches approach to thinking about their clients is as people filled with unrealized potential.
- The Life Coaching counseling stance is to act as a foil for the client to dig deep into themselves for greater and greater understanding of who they are.
- The stance is accomplished in a manner akin to Socrates' dialectic method, but with an emphasis on simpatico (the Coach actually caring for, eventually perhaps loving, their clients) and clients finding questions which help to better understand themselves, not just asking questions for knowledge and intriguing mental exercise (Socrates thought emotions were a barrier to understanding).
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